OFFICIAL SAVANA RAE: THE UGLY TRUTH SERIES - RELATIONSHIPS RED FLAGS AND WHY YOU SHOULDN'T IGNORE THEM

THE UGLY TRUTH SERIES - RELATIONSHIPS RED FLAGS AND WHY YOU SHOULDN'T IGNORE THEM

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If there is anything I learnt from my past toxic relationship is that RESPECT is at the base of everything and surpasses even love.


Respect and love go hand in hand , I never actually noticed this, I used to think that as long as you had "love" or what I perceived as love respect was something I was willing to compromise on.

THE UGLY TRUTH SERIES - RELATIONSHIPS RED FLAGS AND WHY YOU SHOULDN'T IGNORE THEM

Thinking about this now makes me think Oh god what the hell was I thinking compromising on respect???are you serious! It's just blows my mind!

I was the typically stressed out partner who was googling signs on spotting if your partner is cheating on you!


These are relationship flags you should never ignore nor find excuses for!!!!!!!!!! 


If the below behaviour patterns are contast this is definitely a time to reconsider your relationship with that person!!!!!!!!!!



1. STARTS AVOIDING SPENDING TIME WITH YOU


THE UGLY TRUTH SERIES - RELATIONSHIPS RED FLAGS AND WHY YOU SHOULDN'T IGNORE THEM

When a relationship starts off, you will in general be spending a considerable amount together, getting to know one another.

Then real life gets in the way, where jobs, family and friends come into play.

Did your partner spend their free time with you and then all of a sudden started to spend less and less time with you?????????


Well this will be a warning sign that your partner consciously chooses not to spend time with you!!!!!!

I DON'T WANT TO HEAR EXCUSES!!!!!!! I know for a fact for example that when a man wants to spend time with you he will cross oceans and the same goes for women!!!!!!!!!!!

Whilst it's good to spend time with others too, it's not healthy for a couple to not spend free time together and defeats the object of being together!!!!!!!!


When you experience life together , you built memories, trust and a deeper connection!!!!!!!!!

If you start spending less and less time together, people grow and you won't vibe as well because you are becoming strangers!!!!!!!! I am talking about people that exhibit this behaviour on a daily basis!!!!!!!!

This is a red flag that many couples ignore but that shouldn't go unnoticed.


Seems to have time for everyone or everything except for you 

2. KEEPS DISTANCE FROM YOUR FAMILY


THE UGLY TRUTH SERIES - RELATIONSHIPS RED FLAGS AND WHY YOU SHOULDN'T IGNORE THEM

This for me is a HUGE red flag. Does your other half not make AN ACTIVE EFFORT with your close family???????????


This goes to show a lot about their character.

If you love someone , why would you not want to impress the other half's family or at least try.

It is very common to have a difficult time with the other persons family but when you love someone for the sake of the love you share you put in the work with their family!!!!!!!!!


Is your partner not making an effort to come to family get togethers? Do they come up with excuses after excuses? Are they not making an effort to be cordial especially when there is a special occasion?

Well, this is definitely a cause of concern!!!! When someone loves you they will go all out to gain approval from the other half's family!

Don't let their excuses fool you they will give you a million reasons why they are not doing this!!!!!!!

3. DOESN'T SHOW RESPECT


THE UGLY TRUTH SERIES - RELATIONSHIPS RED FLAGS AND WHY YOU SHOULDN'T IGNORE THEM

Ok this is a big and key topic!!!!!!!! RESPECT!!!!!!!!!

When I mention respect, I mean respect in how they speak to you, how they treat you in front of people and especially how they treat you when you are alone together!!!!!!!

Respect boundaries should be set from the get go!!! You should speak to each other with respect and treat each other with respect!!!!


A big red flag for me and I still remember it to this day is being at my other half's family home and being shouted at with both families there for a truly trivial reason!!!!!! (for those that are dying to know I was simply asking him where he was going and he became irate!!!!!!!!!)


Under NO CIRCUMSTANCE should ANYONE (wether female or male) accept their partner physically abusing them in any way!!!!!


NO HITTING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This is grounds for an immediate break-up in my eyes!!!!!!!!! Never give someone a chance after this!!!!!! It is unacceptable behaviour!!!!!!!!!

Then there's also those who abuse you mentally!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Psychological abuse is also something you should be aware of and not accept!!!!!!

4. IS NOT AFFECTED BY YOU GETTING UPSET


THE UGLY TRUTH SERIES - RELATIONSHIPS RED FLAGS AND WHY YOU SHOULDN'T IGNORE THEM

Does your other half have no compassion for your feelings? This is something that should get you really thinking about things!!!

When you love someone you want their happiness and all you want is to see the other person happy!


Sometimes out of love and the key to making a relationship work is COMPROMISING!

Is you other half trying to make you consciously happy and trying to make you feel better about yourself?

The same goes for you! Do you try to make your other half happy? It's a two street!

You should worry in the case that they have upset you and they don't seem bothered at all!!! This is a big one!!!!! 


How can someone love you and not feel bad for hurting you or your feelings?

5. GIVES YOU REASONS TO DOUBT THEM


THE UGLY TRUTH SERIES - RELATIONSHIPS RED FLAGS AND WHY YOU SHOULDN'T IGNORE THEM

In this case by reasons to doubt them I mean a range of scenarios:

1. Coming home late for no apparent reason!

2. Sleeping elsewhere without even letting you know!

3. Being secretive with their phone!

4. Lying about where you they are or where they are going!

5. Finding random reasons to fight with you just so they can get out.



The list is endless , but basically anything that is it of the ordinary on a regular basis!


6. DOES THINGS FOR EVERYONE EXCEPT YOU


THE UGLY TRUTH SERIES - RELATIONSHIPS RED FLAGS AND WHY YOU SHOULDN'T IGNORE THEM

Your partner seems to put everybody's needs before yours.

In this scenario , he also puts himself regularly before you!

His and her own needs come first rather rather than being reciprocated. your partner needs also do!


Don't ignore all these relationship flags!

A relationship is a two way street and what gives it the right fundamentals to withstand life is sticking to core values.

The core values include: respect, loyalty , being truthful, compromising and having eachother happiness at heart!


I urge you to not settle for anything less!

THE UGLY TRUTH SERIES - RELATIONSHIPS RED FLAGS AND WHY YOU SHOULDN'T IGNORE THEM

Don't settle for the first person you meet our lower your standards when it comes to respect or loyalty just because you are worried to be on your own or not to find someone new!

When you leave space for someone who deserves you instead of waisting your time on someone who doesn't, you don't know what the future has in store for you!


THE UGLY TRUTH SERIES - RELATIONSHIPS RED FLAGS AND WHY YOU SHOULDN'T IGNORE THEM

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